🎉 I Turned 45 Today—And Wrote A Letter To My 35-Year-Old Self

Today’s my birthday—45 trips around the sun! ✨

To celebrate, and to thank you for doing the EQ work and being a fellow #joyseeker, I’m sharing something close to my heart: a letter I wrote to my 35-year-old self.

If you’ve been here a while, you know this space blends practical EQ strategies for work + home with the kind of soulful reflection that leads to true self-mastery and joy. Today’s letter leans into the latter.

Even though I wrote it to a younger me, I have a feeling it’s meant for you too.

Enjoy. 💜

Dear 35-Year-Old Sara,

Hello, Beautiful –

The best is yet to come. But you have to open your heart and allow it in. The universe has far bigger and better plans for you than you can even imagine. Once you move out of your subconscious mind and stop projecting what you already know onto your present, the magic will begin to unfold.

You’re ahead of your time. You were meant to go first. This will feel lonely at times… you’ll even question your sanity. But all that questioning comes from your conditioned mind. When you tap into your heart, connect with your body, and listen to your wise inner knowing, you’ll recognize Truth when you experience it. Trust that. Clarity will come, and others will catch up. You’ll realize you were never alone.

Soul sisters and brothers are real. You made sacred agreements to come into each other’s lives and support your soul’s evolution. Every human you cross paths with—from your Uber driver to your son’s best friend’s mother—carries a blessing or a wisdom nugget for you, or you for them. Honor the connection. Love the human in front of you. We’re all in this together.

You will take many leaps of faith—more than most. And after every leap, you’ll ask yourself, “Why didn’t I do this sooner?” It’s all part of your process. These leaps are building your confidence and courage for what’s ahead.

One day, in a split second, your perception of the world will shift. You won’t be able to unsee it—though you’ll try with everything in you to go back to the old ways. It’s futile… and it’s okay. That’s part of your process too. Change is inevitable. It’s natural. But you’ll grip tightly to the past, trying again and again to keep things the way they were. Instead, my love, surrender. Let life flow through you.

You’ll move through a deep period of guilt, self-doubt, and uncertainty. At times, it will feel like too much. Everything you’ve believed will crumble. But you carry a profound skill: radical responsibility. When you find yourself slipping into victimhood, you’ll rise. You’ll know—deep in your bones—that this shattering is for you, even if it breaks you open in the moment. It’s aligning you with your heart, your soul, your truth.

People will try to pull you into drama. But you have the gift of seeing the bigger picture. You’ll rarely take the bait—and often take the high road, with grace and gratitude. It’s no coincidence you’re an emotional intelligence teacher. You carry a depth of wisdom and skill that will surprise many. The sooner you own this, the more joy and impact you’ll bring to your work. We need you.

Your light will inspire some and trigger others. Shine anyway. Shine bright. Both are necessary for our human evolution.

You are loved – you are oh, so loved and supported and guided. You are always in the right place at the right time. Deep down you know this – that’s why there’s always a twinkle in your eye.

Enjoy the magic, and happy birthday.

Love,

💜 45-Year-Old Sara

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