Last week I wrote to you about the necessity of developing a healthier relationship to your feelings in order to have emotional intelligence and high performance in your life. In order to do this, we need to understand that all feelings are neutral. They are not good or bad; they just are. They are part of the human experience. Sure, we often label feelings like joy, happiness, love, and gratitude as “good” feelings. And feelings …
A part of self-mastery and having the emotional intelligence that is necessary to effectively lead your team, family, and yourself is feeling your feelings. Why is this so important? Well, because our feelings are messengers. They are a communication vehicle to our inner terrain. They help us do more of what makes us feel good, avoid or establish boundaries around what doesn’t, and understand the relationships in our lives. When We Ignore Our Feelings They …
Self-care is not about spending a day at the spa or taking a vacation – though I love both of these activities! You don’t need an entire day or even a whole afternoon free in order to fill your self-care bucket. Self-care is about how you approach every decision you make throughout the day. It’s about the value and worth you give to your time, your health, and your dreams. It doesn’t happen in big chunks …
Most of us humans are people pleasers and worry too much about what other people think of us. One of the main reasons for this is that we are a tribal species. In the earliest days of our species, our tribe (especially the alpha, or leader) had to like and accept us so we could maintain our place in the tribe, which meant food, safety, and survival. If someone, especially the alpha, didn’t like us …
Confidence is a critical trait for a leader. Without it, your team will not follow you or contribute at their highest potential. Without confidence, adversity of any magnitude can derail your team’s progress. Confidence cannot be faked. You either have it or you don’t. None of us is born confident or starts out confident in our skills or leadership abilities. Instead, confidence is something each and every one of us creates. So how do you …